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                      Although, this didn't start off as a lifestyle blog, I would like to throw one interesting post out there occasionally. 

Today's Topic: Breakups and a Guide to Getting over them. 

While neither Alyssa or myself claim to be a master at this we've together been through multiple types. Long Term. Short Term. Playing the part of both the dumper and the dumpee. 

Step One: Wallow.

Yes, this is one of the many lessons that can be taken away from gilmore girls. If Rory Gilmore needs to wallow, then so do you. Go grab yourself some ribs and some ice-cream, watch some sappy movies, and cry. (avoid the Notebook at all costs. it's unhealthy. i'm serious.) Think its silly? You're a girl. Its second nature. Mourn the relationship for a few days or maybe even a week if it was a particularly long relationship. But please, shower. If not, it will look as though you have taken this as the end of the world. It's not. Cleanliness is very important. 

Step Two: Resist the urge to contact/stalk. 

DON'T Facebook stalk him. DON'T text/call/facebook message/snailmail/email him. 

If you choose to do either of these things it WILL, I repeat, WILL make your situation worse. 

If you need clarification on what counts as Facebook stalking, then you are probably doing it.
Listen to what your friends tell you. They know when you're lying about talking to him. 

Step Three: Get Angry

Be angry at him. Its natural. 

Don't badmouth him, unless its with your best friend. (you're allowed to bad mouth him all you want. love, lys.) Don't dramatize the situation to make him sound worse to other people. Just don't do it.
Keep your awful heartbroken opinions to you and your few best friends.  

Step Four: Get a "New Leaf"

I have to give Alyssa credit for this terminology. (She's right. that's what all my friends called it. I went cleaning crazy and redid everything in sight. new room, new me. love-lys.) Fill up that time you spent chatting, worrying about, fawning over that ex with some productive things. Redo your room. Pick up that old guitar. Paint. Clean. Or, my personal favorite, pick up some semi-extreme sport like rock climbing because-

A) It will make you feel badass. 

B) You will meet some hot guys. 

C) This activity will get you in shape

D) Which could potentially get you noticed by previously mentioned guys

Step Five: Move On....at least emotionally. 

This doesn't mean to a new boy (aka rebound) which we do not recommend. (although starbucks baristas are a fun option.)  It means accept that the relationship ended for a reason and move on with your life. Quit thinking about him and if you didn't follow step two then, definitely follow it now. Don't Facebook stalk. EVER. It will drive you crazy. "who's she?" "why is he friends with her?" bad idea, kiddos. 

Step Six: Don't get back together with him

This can be the hardest for most people, because he will probably realize what an idiot he was and come back. Just say no. Like he's a drug--unless you say yes to drugs. (And then this wouldn't work out very well) At least give it a year. 

Overall Tip: Don't post anything about this process or the breakup itself on a social networking site, because no one wants to see it, unless they want to laugh at it. (so true. we live for your sappy heartfelt post breakup status updates.)

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Tell us your thoughts! Anything we left out? Any particularly good wallowing foods we should know about for future reference? 

Thanks for reading.

-the completely single minds of mal.lys.